The Real Struggles of Couples Travel (& Solutions)

The Real Struggles of Couples Travel (& Solutions)

Travel has continued to be an essential part of our married life. We are both curious about the world and keen about learning. Experiencing things together and giving warm hugs when achieving something spectacular are some advantages of travelling as a couple. But the reality is with our past travels we don’t always compromise and we do annoy each other when traveling. Here are the real struggles we experienced as a couple who loves to travelreal struggles couple travel.

Our Real Struggles Before & During Travel (and Solutions)

1. Packing Space

Just because I’m a girl, it doesn’t mean that I deserve more of our luggage space. Certainly true! We have separate luggage but there are times that I need to reduce my things EVEN MORE because my husband has more things than mine (camera batteries, power banks, chargers, tripod, cords and all those techy stuff) and his pants/jackets are thicker than my dresses. YES, I always complain on such things before :p

Our Solution: We try to be equal and practical about packing. Sharing space made us both aware of our belongings. This can be really helpful to prevent missing any valuables.

2. Different Personalities

He’s a morning person and I’m not. When travelling, most of the main attractions can be seen if you come very early. It’s always hard for me to wake up early as I need an 8 hours of sleep to function better. So when I lost some of my precious sleep time, there are moments I get irritated on him.

He’s very patient while I easily get bored. Camera/Tripod settings! Ehem! I always protest about how long he spends on taking photos, setting his camera, adjusting tripod or changing lenses. I used to be impatient with such things but I believed now, I’m a changed woman! Haha 🙂

New York Skyline at Night

he took this shot alone for around 30 minutes, I chose to stay inside as it was very cold that night!

He loves animals and I’m scared of any, I can only take care of a gold fish or small birds in cages :p Guess why we never choose any zoo /wildlife safari adventures?

Our Solution: We return to the hotel early if I haven’t got my full sleep. I easily get tired and sick due to a bad weather or contaminated water, lame. With the waiting time when he’s taking photos (talk about long exposure at night!) I keep my mouth shut and make myself busy of something –though I’m not really doing anything and I’m just waiting and waiting :p With our differences, we learned to compromise whenever we are travelling. Of course it always helps when you are in a gorgeous location somewhere around the world 🙂

3. Forget the Romance

When we’re in Greece, and there’s this beautiful sunset in Oia which was gorgeous and magical then it supposed to be romantic right? But because, my husband was busy capturing it, he forgot that he needs to be extra sweet on me! I was a clingy wife and you can’t imagine how much I need attention, haha. Walking the streets of a foreign city, going on tours and visiting attractions all seem like romantic dates already but reality is we tend to forget being sweet to one another as we’re too busy with the unfamiliar places in front of us. The worst thing is when we start acting like friends.

Oia Sunset

here’s the result of my long wait! haha

Our Solution: We made sure not to forget the main reason while we’re traveling – to experience/see things TOGETHER, to build a library of SHARED travel and life experiences. Even though travel can sometimes be difficult and we are busy sightseeing or running around seeing everything, we remember to stop and take time for each other. Just like what we did in New York, we made sure to plan a date on our anniversary day 🙂

4. Uncontrolled Scenarios

I remember when we’re in Istanbul, we got lost in one neighborhood and it was freezing because of snow. Then there’s another time, I forgot some dress and accessories or he can’t find his lens cap, he forgot to wear a jacket then he ended up buying one which is out of the budget, you know – the simple things or the uncontrollable scenarios that’s going to happen before and during travel. These are the stuff that memories are made of that we got angry and annoyed for a minute or for an hour or two.

Our solution: It happens but we learned to calm down and leave it there. Turn the negative to positive one and laugh it out! No bringing it up later to make each other feel bad. It’s unavoidable, so it’s best to just go with the flow and just love and care freely. After all, we only have each other while on the move! 🙂
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Aya Sofya Couple

us in front of the stunning Hagia Sophia on a New Year’s day

5. Working on a Holiday

As much as possible, we wanted to enjoy the holiday without thinking about work. But that’s not always the case especially with the husband who’s inclined to check his emails as soon as he arrives in the hotel.
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Our solution:  With the short holidays, let’s say 4-7 days. We’d created a rule of not to check any emails or even social media messages. But with the annual leave, we are allowed to.

6. Lost of Independence

One of the disadvantages is that we have both lost some individuality in a way. It’s like we’ve lost a body part when we’re apart even for a day! We are too dependent on each other and often struggle, most in my case. Another disadvantage of constantly spending time together is more likely to find each others bad habits that lead to petty arguments. But that’s all part of married life, c’mon.

Our solution: When traveling, I allow him to leave me in the hotel for him to take night shots. Yes, there are times that I’m too sick or tired to go out at night. I can enjoy some alone time checking my social media accounts and he can enjoy his night shots 🙂 While on the disagreements we always fall back on the word “compromise”. Relationships take a lot of work even when on the road.

Sri Lanka Couple

@Randholee Hotel, Kandy Sri Lanka

Traveling is fun and with your better half, it seems to be more enjoyable and an awesome idea. Talk about cuddles and hilarious moments in new locations. All sounds fun with your partner around. But let’s not pretend that it’s not always an even and romantic ride all the way. Going on a trip as a couple is an extreme learning experience, sometimes comes with arguments, uncontrolled scenarios and more struggles.

The important thing here is that you both know how to compromise, and let travelling together strengthen the relationship. Keep it renewed and exciting 🙂
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18 comments

Angelica March 20, 2017 - 7:14 am

Awww. I so love this post. Sana kami din ng bf ko makapagtravel abroad kaso we’re just starting out with work and wala pa kaming budget haha. Siguro pag kasal nalang din kami hihi. And ang ganda ng shots ni hubby mo! Super cool. Worth the wait talaga siya. 😀

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The Moment Keepers March 25, 2017 - 1:15 pm

Hi Angelica! Thank you for the compliments kay hubby 🙂 We’re full time sa corporate jobs din and we travel during holidays and annual leave lang. For sure, you get to save for planned trips abroad. When this happen, share it with us, let’s connect on IG 🙂
– Joanna

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Diya January 25, 2017 - 10:40 am

I just stumbled upon your blog today and I am floored! You have such a beautiful site and even more stunning pictures! All your patient waiting has definitely paid off 🙂 Off to explore more of your wonderful adventures 🙂

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The Moment Keepers January 28, 2017 - 5:27 am

Hi Diya, Thank you so much for the kind compliments. Glad we found each other here! We also checked your website and we found out that you’re also a blogger here in the UAE? We’d love to connect on Instagram 🙂

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Ed November 15, 2016 - 10:54 am

Its always a learning experience when travelling as a couple. You learn more of each strengths and weaknesses and you become a better partner and a formidable team.hehe

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The Moment Keepers November 16, 2016 - 5:17 am

We definitely agree with that Ed! Traveling is revealing, learning of strength and weaknesses is actually good for couples on the road, as you said, you become a better partner/team, no facades and you just have to appreciate your partner the way he/she is 🙂 let’s continue to spread cheesiness! haha have a good day! Thanks for visiting the blog.

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Bea De Guzman November 9, 2016 - 6:26 am

I’ve been here before, nung New York posts niyo. I’m silent and shy pa nun. HAHAHA! Ngayon FC na ako I’ll be noisy here as well. Oh, I’m sure naman you’ll afford to go to Bangkok anytime soon.

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The Moment Keepers November 9, 2016 - 11:39 am

haha! thank you kung nandito kna pla before! 🙂
Enjoy your Bangkok trip and we’ll be waiting for your blog post about it
so we can have a handy guide when we visit Bangkok 🙂
PLEASE be noisy, haha

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nadia November 8, 2016 - 2:05 pm

Oh, and as someone who is the main person in-charge of taking photos, I applaud your willingness to be patient and understanding. I totally understand what you mean because Masood goes through all that and he patiently waits.

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The Moment Keepers November 9, 2016 - 6:02 am

I’d like to tap Masood shoulders for a job well done and say that everything will be fine!haha,
Patience and understanding are the key to a stress-free travel and I guess can be applied on relationships too 🙂

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nadia November 8, 2016 - 2:03 pm

I love this post! You make really good points. For Masood and I, the struggles begin from the planning phase itself, haha. Plus, I’m the morning person while his day starts at noon (if I let him). But despite all these, I can’t imagine having a better travel companion than him.

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The Moment Keepers November 9, 2016 - 5:52 am

Haha! I can guess why it begins in the planning stage! :p
absolutely right! though a lot of mini-arguments can happen esp. when traveling which is acceptable in a married life.
Whatever happens, we still choose them to be our companion and travel buddy. Keep on sharing your travel stories Nadia.
Happy travels to you and Masood 🙂

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Bea De Guzman November 8, 2016 - 5:45 am

You two have been in too many places!! Kainggit! And his shots are amazing so you waits are worth it naman. haha! I haven’t travel with my boyfriend but we have 12 hours solo time on Bangkok next month before our friends arrived. I wonder how it will turn out but I’m keeping all the things you’ve said – COMPROMISE. haha!

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The Moment Keepers November 8, 2016 - 9:42 am

Hi Bea, nice to see you here! 🙂

Minsan nakakafrustrate maghintay :p but as you said, worth it naman so ok na rin. I’ll be more patient next time. haha
Never been to Bangkok, hope you two will enjoy your quality time together, make the most of it and yeah COMPROMISE – big word! 🙂
I’ll wait for your updates on IG.

Happy travels!

– Joanna

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BBQboy November 8, 2016 - 12:59 am

Some great photos. We’ve been travelling full-time for almost 3 years and yes, it can be hard on a relationship at times. But if it can survive travelling together it can survive just about anything.

Frank (bbqboy)

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The Moment Keepers November 8, 2016 - 9:49 am

Hi Frank, thanks for your visit 🙂
I saw your website and happy to know that we’re on the same aspirations. I can’t agree more, couple who loves traveling also faced some difficulties but at the same time there are such advantages that makes it rewarding for both 🙂
Enjoy your travels, btw, i love the header of your site! 🙂

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Sue Slaght November 7, 2016 - 5:13 pm

Sounds like you have good communication skills and are finding ways to make things work. We have been together for 37 years and would say communicate, communicate, communicate. No matter how much your travel the unexpected always happens. Learning to discuss how to manage things together is the key. Happy travels!

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The Moment Keepers November 8, 2016 - 9:57 am

Hi Sue, thanks for that lovely comment! Yes, we learned how to communicate most when on the road. We only have each other after all! 🙂
37 years is so long and admirable, not to mention, being best friends! Being able to travel around the world with your husband is certainly fulfilling.
Safe travels!

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